the most valuable

Message: A man was going abroad to work, leaving his fiancee crying. "Don'tworry, I will write you everyday," he said. For years he did writeher. But since he was happy with his job, he had no immediate plansof going home. One day, he received a wedding invitation. Hisgirlfriend was scheduled to be married. To whom? To the mailmanbringing regularly the letters of her boyfriend!Indeed, distance does make hearts flounder. The poor boyfriendsurely explained, "What went wrong? I sent her letters, chocolates,and flowers."When relationships go wrong, the list of things given and donefor the person usually crops up. We say, "I have given you this andthat... I have done these things for you." It seems that love issimply proven by the bestowal of gifts and favors. But whilepresents are important, love demands what is basic: 'presence ofthe beloved'. I have observed for instance, the orchids of mymother's. When she's away for a long time, they are unhealthy andmany of them wither. But when she is around, they bloom withbeautiful flowers. My mother does nothing exceptional. She justspends much time talking and caressing them. I guess persons allthe more require a caring presence. Love is fundamentally acommitment to a person.We may be committed to our business, job, hobby, sports andclubs. But strictly speaking, they cannot love us back. Only aperson can love us in return, and for that matter, the highest commitmentas human beings, is spending time with those persons we love. Andsince people need affection and nourishment, material things canonly help up to a certain degree in fostering love. But it cannever replace the greatest gift of presence because everyoneneeds someone - be it friends, parents, siblings or simply that'special' one. Being there for someone need not necessary meanhaving to say alot. Words are sometimes redundant. Remember that'presence' (to be there for someone) is more than enough.~*~ What Is Most Valuable Is Not What You Have In Your Life, But WhoYou Have In Your Life ~*~In our pursuits, let's not neglectspending quality time with the most important person/people of our lives.* Love, it's all in our hearts **


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